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My Name is BRIANNA

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on September 19th, 2018 with No Comments

Ask ME what it’s like to rescue a dog, and I’ll tell you…

My name is Brianna.  I love French Toast and Flan!  Next month I’m turning 14.  Ask me what it’s like to rescue a dog, and I’ll tell you all about Hazel.  She’s a mixed breed that our family took in from Puerto Rico in the aftermath of Hurricane Maria.  Between Hazel, my younger brother and our new baby sister, our house is full and I don’t get much quiet.  Given that, one of my favorite places to spend time is in my room where I listen to music, do crafts, watch Harry Potter movies… and my favorite television show Supernatural.

I’m hoping to be matched with a Big Friend so that I can share with them my interest in science, photography and interior design.  I am also hoping that having a Big Friend will provide me that chance to be a younger sibling to someone.  As the oldest in my family, I spend a lot of my time helping out with my brother and sister.  Being matched with a mentor might give me a chance for some time away from them and their needs.  Summer is my favorite season, and a perfect day for me (especially in summer time) is taking a trip to a theme park like Six Flags!

If I could have three wishes granted they would be:

  1. Receive a scholarship for college…
  2. Buy my Mom her dream house…
  3. Be given three more wishes!

A Big Friend who enjoys creative projects, conversation, shopping and field trips to new places would make for an ideal match with Brianna.  To learn more about Brianna and the many other wonderful children who hope to be paired with an adult mentor, please contact our Big Friends Little Friends program at 978-327-6600.

Family Services of the Merrimack Valley’s Big Friends Little Friends is a youth mentoring program that matches caring adult mentors with young people who could benefit from a relationship with a positive adult role model. The goal of the program is to develop the positive potential of young people by providing them with support, guidance and friendship.  Serving fifteen towns in the Merrimack Valley, each year our Big Friends Little Friends program matches approximately 100 children with mentors.

Big Friends are caring and responsible people who:

  • Are from all different backgrounds, races and religions, and like to have fun.
  • Are committed to being a consistent role-model; to their continued mentor training; and to sharing, listening and visiting with their Little Friend.
  • Are able to relate positively and in a meaningful manner to a growing boy or girl.

Little Friends are boys and girls between the ages of 6 and 14 who:

  • Reside in our service area.
  • Have a desire to be in the program and want to have a Big Friend.
  • Have the approval and support of their parents or guardians to participate in the program.
  • Are from all different backgrounds, races and religions.

Our mentoring program service area includes children from: Amesbury, Andover, Boxford, Georgetown, Groveland, Haverhill, Lawrence, Merrimac, Methuen, Newbury, Newburyport, North Andover, Rowley, Salisbury, and West Newbury.  Please consider helping us make our long wait list vanish this season by signing up to be a Big Friend today!  Check out one of our great matches… Omar and Boris.

 

Crowning Achievements

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on June 4th, 2018 with 2 Comments

Capstone Finishes to 2018 Stand & Deliver Mentoring Programs…

Family Services of the Merrimack Valley’s 2018 Stand & Deliver mentoring programming recently enjoyed a grand finale as mentors and mentees put the finishing touches on a year filled with agency and inspiration.  Spirited closing receptions hosted by our corporate partners served as capstone moments for nearly 95 local middle and high school students in recent weeks.  Beyond the chance to celebrate the program’s finish, the events present an opportunity to distribute attendance accolades, reflect back and award academic scholarships.

Family Services’ Stand & Deliver academic mentoring program matches Lawrence Public School and Greater Lawrence Technical School students with volunteers from New Balance, Pfizer, Raytheon, Charles River Labs and Schneider Electric.  Each week the students are transported to the partner company for 60 – 90 minute sessions. On site, the matches work on homework, MCAS prep, AP coursework, high school/college readiness, as well as building strong relationships with one other.  “It’s always a great experience to be with the matches all year long, to see them grow closer, to see the students grow, and to watch them make strides in their academics,” shared Stand & Deliver Program Coordinator Katie Butner.   “A personal highlight this year, was when two of our seniors with whom I had really connected, could not wait to tell me they had been accepted at the colleges of their choice. They would not even tell their mentors, until they could tell me too. It’s moments like that which really make this program so much fun.”

We drive innovation…  One global team creating innovative solutions to make the world a safer place…  Born to move…  Innovators & trailblazers, committed to finding the next cure…  Helping you help others every step of the way…  These maxims represent missions embodied by our Stand & Deliver corporate partners.  Through the program, during the course of each school year, students are gifted the opportunity to glimpse firsthand the pursuit of these quests.  It makes for them a thrilling atmosphere and serves as a huge motivation in establishing their own academic and professional goals.  Of his involvement in the Stand & Deliver program Javier (a Lawrence High School senior and aspiring civil engineer) remarked, “I’ve been in Stand & Deliver for three years.  During that time I have had two different mentors.  Be it schoolwork related or current affairs, I just really enjoy the conversations here.  I feel like coming here each week and being able to get into the mind of someone else gives me a real head start.”

There is a genuine sense of achievement as the school year winds down and the program concludes notes the Stand & Deliver program staff.  This year that energy seemed heightened.  “Once the warm weather hits, it’s always a struggle to have the students focus on academics when they really just want to be outside having fun. What I noticed as this year was coming to an end, was that the kids didn’t want to leave their mentors,” shared Butner.  “They were having fun, and that speaks volumes!”

Along with that spirit of success goes a heavy dose of gratitude for the volunteers from New Balance, Pfizer, Raytheon, Charles River Labs and Schneider Electric who offer their time and talent over the course of the school year.  Family Services would not be able to do what we do without the tremendous support of our corporate partners. Thanks to them, we are able to see the smiles on our students faces, catch their laughs with their mentors and witness firsthand their enhanced academic performance.  Congratulations and THANK YOU to everyone who helped to drive our 2017 – 2018 Stand & Deliver programming!

If you would like to learn more about our Stand & Deliver program or other opportunities for supporting Family Services of the Merrimack Valley, please visit…

Meet Laishalee: Mentee of the Month

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on April 11th, 2018 with No Comments

Nine-year old Laishalee is a gifted singer who performs each year in her school’s talent show.  Big Friends Little Friends—a mentoring program of Family Services of the Merrimack Valley—is seeking a caring adult volunteer to serve as a mentor to Laishalee, and other waiting children.  Mentors help children build confidence, explore new activities, and build important life skills for social and academic success.

Laishalee’s friendly and outgoing personality enable her to warm up easily to caring adults.  She hopes a mentor will teach her how to sew and plant a garden.  Other activity ideas that would be a good fit for Laishalee might include walking dogs at the MSPCA or attending a musical or concert at a local school or library.

Laishalee is close with her family, but will benefit from building social skills in other settings.  An ideal mentor will nurture Laishalee’s curiousity about her world, and share enthusiasm for learning new things.

Please contact chaines@fsmv.org at the Big Friends Little Friends program today to get started making a positive impact in the life of a child in your community.

Meet Janiahlee! Big Friends Little Friends Mentee of the Month

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on March 9th, 2018 with 3 Comments

Mentee of the Month: JaniahleeJaniahlee is a relaxed and cheerful 4th grader who would benefit from a positive role model who can help her build confidence and explore interests.  She is one of many children waiting to be matched with a caring adult mentor through Big Friends Little Friends—a mentoring program of Family Services of the Merrimack Valley.

Janiahlee has favorite activities she would love to share with her Big Friend, like cooking, playing board games, or going to the zoo, but she’s also eager to try new things.  Her open-minded and easygoing spirit ensures she’s having a great time whether playing soccer or painting her nails.  The one-on-one attention that mentoring provides will be a special gift to Janiahlee, who is the eldest of four siblings.

One of Janiahlee’s many strengths is her perseverance.  Although academics are challenging for her, she loves school—especially social studies, math, and language arts.  A mentor can be a key support and cheerleader for Janiahlee as she builds her skills and confidence.  Could you offer an hour or two each week to Janiahlee?

Please contact chaines@fsmv.org at the Big Friends Little Friends program today to get started making a positive impact in the life of a child in your community.

Big Friends Little Friends, a program of Family Services of the Merrimack Valley, is a mentoring program that matches volunteer adult mentors with youth, ages 6-14, who could benefit from a relationship with a positive adult role model. “Bigs,” who provide friendship, guidance, and support for their “Little,” get together 1.5-2 hours a week for a minimum of one year. Big Friends Little Friends serves 15 towns in the Merrimack Valley.

Local Resident to be Honored at State House for Leadership in Suicide Prevention

Posted in Uncategorized on March 5th, 2018 with No Comments

Image courtesy of the Daily Hampshire Gazette

On Monday, March 12, 2018 leaders from across Massachusetts will be recognized as part of the Massachusetts Coalition for Suicide Prevention (MCSP) annual Leadership in Suicide Prevention event at the State House in Boston. This year’s awardees come from across the state, including the Berkshires, South Shore, Nantucket and Newburyport and Andover.  Among those being recognized for their efforts is former Samaritans of the Merrimack Valley staff member, Janice McCarthy.

Beyond her professional experience with the Samaritans, a program of Family Services, McCarthy has an acute personal understanding of the pain of those families effected by suicide. Her husband, Captain Paul McCarthy, a Massachusetts state trooper, killed himself in 2006 after a series of traumatic incidents he experienced on the job over 13 years.  “He got into trouble at work and home. He didn’t sleep; he couldn’t go to family functions, didn’t like to be around people, didn’t like to do anything that we used to do, didn’t want to fly,” recalled McCarthy in a 2017 interview with the Daily Hampshire Gazette. “At the end of his life, his perception of his reality was very skewed.”  Suicide is the number one killer of law enforcement officers in the United States.  Each year in this country between 140-160 police officers are killed on duty; primarily from auto accidents, assaults and gunfire.  And, each year almost twice that number of police officers lose their life to suicide.“They (law enforcement officers) get physical training, they get training on CPR and ballistics and all that,” McCarthy noted. “But the thing that killed them the most is themselves. And, there’s no training on that.”

Paul McCarthy was 41 when he took his own life.  Following the suicide death of her husband, Ms. McCarthy, an Andover resident, transformed her grief into action and founded the non-profit Care of Police Suicide Survivors (COPSS).  She has since trained law enforcement officers across the state and country, including at Quantico headquarters in Virginia. More than a decade after her husband’s death, Janice initiated (H 2496), a bill in the Massachusetts State Legislature to require mental wellness, suicide prevention, and PTSD training for police officers.  At that time she enlisted this support of her State Representative James Lyons (R-Andover) and Timothy Whelan (R-Brewster) who co-sponsored the legislation.  The bill presently has the support of nine legislators and is now under review with the Joint Committee for Health Care Financing.

Since 1999, the Massachusetts Coalition for Suicide Prevention has been working to bring about awareness and mobilize community action in response to the public health crisis of suicide in the Commonwealth, a tragedy that claims more lives in the state than homicide and HIV/AIDS. The MCSP seeks to serve as a bridge between those on the front lines of suicide prevention and local communities seeking to make their communities safe and healthy.  Their Leadership in Suicide Prevention awards will be presented by various legislators in the Great Hall at the State House  in Boston at 9 AM. The event is free and open to the public.  Family Services salutes our friend and former co-worker Janice McCarthy as she receives this honor.  Thank you for the difference you are making!

Family Services’ Samaritans of Merrimack Valley strives to reduce the incidence of suicide in the Merrimack Valley and throughout Massachusetts by providing “befriending” to individuals who are lonely, depressed and contemplating suicide or self-injury. Suicide prevention is one of the primary goals of the Samaritans, although services also include postvention services, trainings and seminars, and support groups.  To learn more about the suicide programming we offer, please visit the Samaritans page on our website.  Family Services’ Samaritans also provides a free and confidential crisis help line to those who are lonely, despairing, suicidal or need someone to listen. This 24/7 service is provided by trained volunteers who provide unconditional and non-judgmental “TLC” – talking, listening and caring. Reach our Crisis Help Line at 866-912-HOPE (4673).

 

Making Proud Choices

Posted in Community, Uncategorized on February 9th, 2018 with No Comments

“Reggie, Gabriel, Angel, Ronald...”  So goes the roll call on a Tuesday morning at Lawrence High School.  The five rows of desks fill quickly, but the 28 or so occupants are not settling in to study math or english or social studies.  They’re here for the next 60 minutes to learn about making proud choices.  Per their instructor, Diana Cortez, a Family Services PREP Program Facilitator, it’s earbuds out and best behavior in as the group dives into the lesson of the day – delivered through a blend of lecture, group conversation, role playing and building solutions.  Alternating between Spanish and English, assuredly she commands the classroom – articulating her expectation to “see things on the page” from each of them.  “Are you listening to this Miss (Cortez)?  I’m learning,” proudly questions one student engaged in a group problem solve just minutes into the lesson.

Making Proud Choices! An Evidence-Based, Safer-Sex Approach to Teen Pregnancy and HIV/STD Prevention is an 8-module curriculum that provides adolescents with the knowledge, confidence and skills necessary to reduce their risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), HIV and pregnancy by abstaining from sex or using condoms if they choose to have sex. The intervention is based on cognitive-behavioral theories, focus groups and the authors’ extensive experience working with youth. Making Proud Choices! is an adaptation and extension of the original Be Proud! Be Responsible! curriculum that integrates teen pregnancy prevention along with HIV/STD prevention. The School Edition is a 14-module adaptation designed to fit a school schedule.  Family Services of the Merrimack Valley is able to share this programming weekly at Lawrence High School through the generous support of the Massachusetts Department of Public Health.

Observing a session with Ms. Cortez and her colleague Jonathan Torres (pictured together above), one comes away with the feeling that these kids are actually enjoying this curriculum on some level.  For Ms. Cortez, it’s not about simply in one ear and out the other.  Making proud choices is a topic about which she is passionate.  Once a young mother herself, she delivers the Making Proud Choices! curriculum from that elevated level of authority.  “Gambling with luck?  That behavior will definitely put you at risk,” she cautions the group as the hour winds to a finish.  That convincing delivery likely has much to do with their taking it all in.  “We learn how to protect ourselves here.  This program is something we look forward to,” share two female students as they gather their books and prepare to head off to the rest of their Tuesday.  But, not before the teachers’ final activity… a weekly raffle with prizes and five minutes of (welcome) free time in their day.

Two of a Kind… Kindred Spirits Connect Through Big Friends Little Friends

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on January 17th, 2018 with No Comments

Methuen resident Alia Mohammed spends the bulk of her waking hours in the company of children.  Her weekdays find her at the front of the room sharing knowledge with a full classroom of 5th graders at West Elementary School in Andover.  She spends a majority of these hours in a ready position – as prepared as possible for the myriad challenges twenty or so ten and eleven year-old year old students serve up.  When the bell rings on Friday afternoon and her classroom empties, one might guess Ms. Mohammed would head for some type of repose.  Instead, she sets out on a weekly date to meet her “Little Friend” Kiara, a delightful 8th grade student at Esperanza Academy in Lawrence.  The two ladies formed a fast friendship as a result of being matched through Family Services of The Merrimack Valley’s Big Friends Little Friends mentoring program, and since September, Kiara and Alia have kept good on a standing gig at the finish of each school week.  “The corn maze, the Methuen Tree Festival, volunteering together at Cor Unum Meal Center, making gingerbread cookies at Halloween… everything she picks I like,” beams Kiara as she shares a bit of the places she and Alia go together.

Kiara and Alia only met some months ago, but to be in their company you might think they go way back.  They both sport easy smiles, complement one another’s sentences, and their faces light up when they discuss a topic for which they share a passion – working hard in school.  Both are deeply committed to education and homework and working hard to achieve.  “I think for me, part of volunteering my time as a mentor is really about being able to make a connection with that one other person with whom you can maintain a regular relationship.  With our weekly visits, I can track Kiara’s life, track her progress and be a part of it over time.  With this match in particular, I’m really inspired by Kiara as I look at all she is doing at her age.  I’m just so impressed.  She’s really just a pleasure to be around.”

“One day, I want to publish a book of poetry,” says Kiara, who adds that during the week she’s often up until the early morning hours finishing her schoolwork – this after putting in an eight hour plus day at school.   “For me, since I go to school each day until five o’clock, these outings with Alia are an opportunity for me to see a lot of places in the world that I haven’t seen before.  She has opened my eyes to the community and what is around me – rather than just my books.”

So, where does a busy school teacher find the time off hours to give of her attention so generously?  “I know the (mentoring) time commitment is an issue for people,” replies Ms. Mohammed.  “But, I would say take the time and make it happen!  It’s totally worth it.  I feel like we always have a good time together… I learn a lot from Kiara.”  And, as another Friday afternoon outing wraps up for the friends – this one making ice cream sundaes at Mad Maggie’s, Kiara wants others to know that she most cherishes the new perspectives her mentor brings to her life.  “At home, my Dad always stresses the importance of taking in other peoples’ point(s) of view.  It’s so helpful for me to be around Alia and each week see a new perspective.”  She is just so kind and nice,” adds Kiara.  “Now, I have a big interest in giving back because I was once in a position where i needed help, and I got her!”

This month Family Services of the Merrimack Valley joins with others across the country in honoring our volunteer mentors through National Mentoring Month.  Thank you to Alia and the hundreds of others who have volunteered their time and attention to make a difference in the lives of children here in the Merrimack Valley.  Our waiting list of children seeking mentors remains long.  If you would like to learn more about volunteering your time as a Big Friend, please contact Christina Haines in our Big Friends Little Friends Mentoring Program at: chaines@fsmv.org.

 

Meet Bree! Our Big Friends Little Friends’ January Mentee of the Month

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on January 8th, 2018 with No Comments

Bree is an aspiring artist eager to find a painting buddy in a mentor.  A polite and articulate 8-year old, Bree is one of many children waiting to be matched with a caring adult mentor through Big Friends Little Friends—a mentoring program of Family Services of the Merrimack Valley.

Bree’s outgoing and fun personality helps her warm up easily to new friends.  Her favorite activities include reading books from the library, listening to U2 with her Mom, or watching the Disney Channel. She is excited to have a mentor who will introduce her to new activities in the community and nurture her love of art.  A mentor for Bree should have some availability after school or on Sundays.  The owner of four beloved cats, a friend of felines would be a friend of Bree’s.

Could you be a Big Friend to Bree?  Please contact chaines@fsmv.org at the Big Friends Little Friends program today to get started making a positive impact for a child in your community.

 

Big Friends Little Friends, a program of Family Services of the Merrimack Valley, is a mentoring program that matches volunteer adult mentors with youth, ages 6-14, who could benefit from a relationship with a positive adult role model. “Bigs,” who provide friendship, guidance, and support for their “Little,” get together 1.5-2 hours a week for a minimum of one year. Big Friends Little Friends serves 15 towns in the Merrimack Valley.

Bundle Up! A Winter Weather Game Plan

Posted in Community, Uncategorized on January 5th, 2018 with No Comments

As the Merrimack Valley digs out from Thursday’s Blizzard and navigates through this current arctic blast, please stay safe in this extreme cold.  When the thermometer plunges, we hear the term “wind chill” in heavy rotation.  Wind chill is based on the rate of heat loss from exposed skin by combined effects of wind and cold and presents one of the most serious dangers in extreme cold.  As the wind increases, heat is carried away from the body at an accelerated rate, driving down the body temperature.  Wind chill is not only a threat to humans, but also to animals.

While we may think we have a firm grasp of the concept of “cold”, these extreme temperature dips can often take people by surprise.  What winter weather preparations are you making to protect you and your family against some of the worst weather that winter has to offer?  Our friends at The National Weather Service offers a number of resources to offer support and help ensure safety during these chill days.  If you or someone you care about must venture outdoors during extreme cold this winter, dress in layers. Cover exposed skin to reduce your risk of frostbite or hypothermia. Try to seek shelter from the wind as much as possible while outside. Once inside again, change into dry clothing immediately if you are wet. Understand and watch for frostbite and hypothermia.  The way to avoid frostbite and hypothermia is to plan for extreme cold before it arrives. Don’t get caught unprepared.”

Here are some simple reminders well worth noting as we head into the weekend.

  • Check the Forecast at weather.gov or your favorite weather app, station, etc.: Make checking the forecast part of your regular routine so you’ll know when to expect cold weather.
  • Adjust Your Schedule: If possible, adjust your schedule to avoid being outside during the coldest part of the day, typically the early morning. Try to find a warm spot for your children while waiting for the school bus outside.
  • Protect Your Pets, Livestock and other Property: If you have pets or farm animals, make sure they have plenty of food and water, and are not overly exposed to extreme cold. Take precautions to ensure your water pipes do not freeze. Know the temperature thresholds of your plants and crops.
  • Fill up the tank: Make sure your car or vehicle has at least a half a tank of gas during extreme cold situations so that you can stay warm if you become stranded.
  • Dress for the outdoors even if you don’t think you’ll be out much.
  • Update Your Winter Car Survival Kit: Make sure your car survival kit has the following:
    • Jumper cables: flares or reflective triangle are great extras
    • Flashlights: Replace the batteries before the winter season starts and pack some extras
    • First Aid Kit: Also check your purse of bag for essential medications
    • Baby, special needs gear: If you have a baby or family member with special needs, pack diapers and any special formula or food
    • Food: Stock non-perishable food such as canned food and a can opener, dry cereal and protein rich foods like nuts and energy bars
    • Water: Have at least 1 gallon of water per person a day for at least 3 days
    • Basic toolkit: Pliers, wrench, screwdriver
    • Pet supplies: Food and water
    • Radio: Battery or hand cranked
    • Cat litter or sand: For better tire traction
    • Shovel: To dig out snow
    • Ice scraper: Even is you usually park in a garage, have one in the car.
    • Clothes: Make sure you dress for the weather in warm clothes, gloves, hat, sturdy boots, jacket and an extra change of clothes for the cold
    • Warmers: Pack extra for body, hand, feet
    • Blankets or sleeping bags: If you get stranded in traffic on a lonely road, you’ll be glad to have it.
    • Charged Cell Phone: Keep a spare charger in your car as well

And, after it warms up, please consider these essential tasks…

  • Check Your Pipes: Your pipes may be frozen. Water pipes on exterior walls and in places that are subject to cold, like in the basement, attic, and under kitchen cabinets, freeze most often. Water expands as it freezes, causing pipes to burst. If they are frozen, first turn on the faucet. Water will drip as you warm the pipes. Heat the pipes using a space heater, heating pad, electric hair dryer, or hot water on a cloth. Never use an open flame. Continue until water pressure returns to normal or call a plumber if you have more issues.
  • Salt Your Walkways: Once it warms up enough to out, it’s important to shovel the snow from your sidewalks and driveway or sprinkle salt if there is ice.. If there is a thick layer of snow on the ground you cannot move, salt the area so that the snow melts. You should also put down salt if there is ice on your stairs leading into your house–less than a quarter inch of ice can be dangerous!
  • Call Your Neighbors: Check to see that your neighbors are okay after the storm, particularly seniors, disabled persons or others living alone. Carbon monoxide poisoning is one of the leading causes of death after storms, particularly when there are power outages. Cases of frostbite and hypothermia are also common for elderly people who were stuck in their homes.
  • Refill Your Supplies: This storm may be over, but there might be another one soon. Every storm is different, so it is important to always be prepared.

A special thanks to The National Weather Service for sharing this important information.  Also parents… check out their simple Winter Safety Video you can share with young children to help them understand the importance of exercising extra caution during extreme winter weather.  Stay safe, be a good neighbor and bundle up!

Just Be There… Helping Young People Achieve Their Full Potential

Posted in Mentoring, Uncategorized on January 2nd, 2018 with No Comments

There are an estimated 46 million young people, aged 8 – 18, living in America. 16 million of them are growing up without the support of a mentor. That translates to one out of every three young people who, outside of their family at home, do not have a trusted adult who they believe they can turn to for advice and guidance. Of those young people, 9 million face a variety of day-to-day challenges that put them at-risk for falling off track.  Family Services’ community-based mentoring programs exist to fill the void in the lives of this swelling population of youth, and in welcoming 2018, we are honored to take part in National Mentoring Month.  Over the years our organization has facilitated mentoring services to thousands of young people here in the Merrimack Valley through our Big Friends Little Friends and Stand & Deliver programs.  We look forward to celebrating those success stories (and those currently in progress) throughout the month of January.

There are several important events happening throughout the month of January in celebration of National Mentoring Month, a campaign begun in the George W. Bush administration and endorsed by both chambers of Congress.  On Thursday, January 4 we ‘ll take part in I am A Mentor Day and salute the many volunteers who fuel our Family Services’ Mentoring Programs.  Thanks to each of you for the difference you make!  According to research provided by the Corporation for National and Community Service:

  • Students who meet regularly with their mentors are 52% less likely than their peers to skip a day of school and 37% less likely to skip a class.
  • Youth who meet regularly with their mentors are 46% less likely than their peers to start using illegal drugs and 27% less likely to start drinking.
  • Seventy-six percent at-risk young adults who had a mentor aspire to enroll in and graduate from college versus half of at-risk young adults who had no mentor.  They are also more likely to be enrolled in college.
  • Mentoring reduces “depressive symptoms” and increases “social acceptance, academic attitudes and grades.”

There is nothing like the clean slate of a brand new year to take stock of how we spend our time.  Such a pause allows for an opportunity to put some thought to those pursuits that enhance and bring meaning into our lives and perhaps committing more time to them.  These exhale type undertakings might look like enrolling in piano lessons, taking up knitting, joining a book club or the gym.  Or, they might take the shape of making an investment of human capital in the life of another as a trusted counselor or guide?  One of the primary roles of a mentor is simply just to be there – to be present and compassionate in the face of whatever may be on the plate of the child with whom they are matched.  As Maya Angelou once said, “In order to be a mentor, and an effective one, one must care. You must care. You don’t have to know how many square miles are in Idaho, you don’t need to know what is the chemical makeup of chemistry, or of blood or water. Know what you know and care about the person, care about what you know and care about the person you’re sharing with.” 

Family Services’ season never ends in terms of recruiting mentors to partner with kids in need of that one spark which might shift the trajectory of their path(s).  As you plot the shifts you might make at the start of a new year, perhaps take a moment and reflect back on that person or moment in your life that was for you a game changer…  We each have a gift to offer and a unique ear to lend.  You could be that change for someone?   What a great way to boldly greet 2018.  If you would like to learn more about our mentoring programs, please visit our website.

 

To learn more about ways to get involved in National Mentoring Month.  Please visit: www.nationalmentoringmonth.org.
Special thanks to the Corporation for National and Community Service for providing facts and figures to this article.